HOW TO BUILD CONFIDENCE AND SELF ESTEEM || HOW TO BE CONFIDENT

HOW TO BUILD CONFIDENCE AND SELF ESTEEM || HOW TO BE CONFIDENT

                       

 Mostly people of you sometimes think about it that why I'm not much confident like others...and definitely everybody want to become more confident.
Actually most of you guys do not know about the power for your well being which is called SELF-CONFIDENCE. You care about the things, like you guys watch reality shows for fun, you guys never read a book, you guys have no skills, never leave your house, never do anything to get yourself uncomfortable, and then you want to be you want to complain about oh I'm not confident of course, you're not confident you haven't developed anything you don't even know yourself how can you be confident in something if you don't know what it is you know if we look at the biggest athletes, if we look at footballers they are so confident in how they play and whatever they do why because they show up every day they train and they know that what they're doing is the best that they can, because they have trained their whole life where they have developed whole skills.  

                                                                                                                                                                                                   "DISCIPLINE GIVES CONFIDENCE"                                                                                          

These people have discipline, these people do not think about you, I feel like it or I don't feel like it. No how you feel does not make you become a whole professional footballer does not make you become an athlete does not make you become a successful business manager whatever you want to be confident your feelings should be off it's not about your feelings.    Listen you don't feel like going to the gym who feels like going to the gym no there listen there's some people they actually enjoy going to the gym right. I don't enjoy going to the gym
but afterwards words I feel like a million box I walk out of the gym  

I'm like yeah I did that and I feel so confident about myself because I do things without thinking about them now I wake up in the morning it's automatic I go to yoga I go to the gym that that's it afterwards,I feel amazing because I push myself to do things, I push myself and then every time I create
a new limit for myself.   

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      ''COMFORT MAKES YOU WEAK''                                                                                             

If you can do more get comfortable with being uncomfortable.
If you think what do I mean by this so, recently I have read this book it's called the ''mountain is you'' it's an amazing book I would recommend it to everyone, in this book the author goes on to describe that we as humans were not wired for happiness we are wired for comfort so our whole goal in life and what we're looking for because people say oh I want money, money will make me happy it's not the money it's the comfort that comes with money you just
want to have a stable and comfortable life you just don't want to worry about bills that's why you want that you know it's stability it's Comfort that's what our human nature is that's what we want as humans so you for example doing something uncomfortable.

Like imagine you never went to the gym then you go from never going to the gym to going 5 days a week to the gym that's a whole shock to the body because your body is not used to it so what your body does is it tries to protect you because now it's in fear mode it's like    

oh I don't know this this is uncomfortable I should protect you because this must be bad if it's

uncomfortable that's why instead of shocking yourself into something do small things but do them consistently start going to the gym two days a week then you do three days then four days go for 10 minutes go for 15 minutes little by little but make sure your body gets used to it because once your body is used to it your body can recognize it as something good as something comfortable if you look at doctors if you look at Physicians.                            

Don't think like oh everybody's watching me they will judge me blah blah, everybody is there to become the best version of themselves everybody has the same goal they are trying to become the the best version.                                                          

They have their own insecurities don't worry they're not looking at you, go there consistently and you make sure that you get good at it because that's how you become confident in what you're doing and that's how you become confident in yourself because you push yourself.    You do uncomfortable things until they get comfortable.        

                                                                                                                                                                                                             ''LET GO OF INSECURITUES''                                                                                                                                                                                                   

I grew up with extreme fear of heights like I was so scared of heights, when I was younger if I would stand on a staircase and you could see through it I would not stand on it , I would literally my feet would be trembling scared of HIDs you know what I did last year...        

I went and I jumped off an airplane literally because I was like I do not grow in my comfort zone I will never be confident if I don't do things that I am not comfortable with until I develop

skills, until I push myself and every single time.                                                                           

I can prove to myself that I can do better that's how I became confident I'm like damn yeah I did that I jumped off an airplane even though I'm scared of heights and I used to have this issue where I would get red in the face like a tomato right somebody would come up to me talk to me I would get red instantly and I kept getting red kept getting red until one time I was like you know what I don't care anymore about getting red because every single time somebody talked to me and I'll be like oh no I'm getting red I'm getting red I would get even more redder and it would just be an awkward and embarrassing situation for me but I don't care and once I start to develop this mentality of like oh whatever it doesn't matter it's not that big of a deal literally the redness started to go because I had accepted it.

                                                                                                                                                      

                                                    ''EXPAND YOUR SOCIAL CIRCLE''                                                                                                                                                                                                                                     

 Anyhow you know how interesting people are literally people love it when you talk to them when you can learn stuff meet new people just go up to them talk to them it's not that big of a deal you can just go up to people and have conversation because it's beautiful if you own a business or anything in life.
Just networking is very important you can meet the right person by just going up and talking to them and they can connect you to someone else and that's it you have a whole new career you know things happen like that sometimes even I believe that God sends you certain people to teach you something right so if you really listen to people when they come up to you when you talk to them or you go up to them that can be a message that can be a signal for you but just be open another thing is let go of perfectionism.                                                                   

Sometimes the issue is when you are thinking about you're creating a craft right or you're creating a business and you're insecure about your business or whatever you cannot be insecure if the only thing you're thinking is how is my service to people,

saying good will it help people will it uplift people yes that's true that is

good then does it matter the way that I look no I can look like an overfilled
crazy lip person I do not care  because this is not my reality as long
as what I am saying and what I'm delivering for others is good enough I'm fine with it.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            

                                              ''MOTIVATING YOURSELF''                                                                                                       

Some people really honestly they're uneducated they don't know what they're saying they have different background different culture and you're thinking in your head oh my God what will they say what will they think honey literally they're not thinking okay so that should not be your concern...
Perfectionism stops you from doing it anyways you know how many successful businessmen  I know and business women that literally started their business without even knowing what they're doing literally they just started selling stuff or delivering a service and then they were like okay now I'm going to figure out how to do it create routines so I I have a morning routine and a nighttime routine when I wake up the first thing I do put my clothes on I go to the gym or I go do hot yoga afterwards I come home I do my skin care I shower immediately I feel fresh I feel re-energized everything I say my blessings I I say what I'm grateful for I thank God and that's it I'm going to go about my work I'm going to go about my day then when I go to bed same thing I I do my skin care again I shower my body  then I go to bed I I do a little meditation afterwards I my prayers I say what I'm grateful for and I I talk to God 

about my day. 

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               

                                                     ''VALUE YOURSELF''                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  

If you don't care about your clothes being clean or ironed or whatever that is form of lack of self-respect literally and nothing else because most of the things are very easy we all have water we have soap you know you can clean yourself if you respect your own body if you respect your yourself other people will respect you and you will have more confidence in yourself.                                                                                                                  

My main priority is always look clean smell good if I don't have to look perfect I don't have to look glamorous whatever I just look clean and I smell good and that's good enough for me because the way that I take care of myself shows to the world how they should take care of me if I do not find myself self worthy of care they won't find me worthy of care I don't respect myself they don't respect myself.

                                                                                                                                                       

                                                     ''SELF-CONFIDENCE IS POWER''                                                                                                                                                                                 

Actually self confidence is is a magic it's an attitude that's about your great abilities and nice skills. Infact  meaning of confidence is  accept and trust yourself. Do you people know your strength and weakness well, and have a view yourself related to positivity.. You should set your goals, realistic expectations, communicative assertively...                                                      

 If you believe in yourself you can get anything you desire for.